The Power of Two: Surviving Serious Illness with an Attitude and an Advocate
by Brian and Gerri Monaghan is a valuable resource for someone who is responsible for organizing ongoing medical care for a relative or friend.
In 1998 Brian, a well-regarded trial lawyer, was diagnosed with Stage IV melanoma. He and his wife Gerri decided to fight for his life with all their skill, and with love and laughter.
The main part of the book, which tells the story of Brian's treatment, is presented in the framework of fifty tips for patient advocates. These include gathering your courage, keeping good records, getting support from others, taking care of yourself, maintaining the patient's dignity, and celebrating milestones.
These fifty tips are summarized in a short section, "The Monaghan Manual," at the back of the book, with page references to the longer explanations of each tip.
After that section are useful checklists for gathering the patient's medical history, living through the hospital experience, writing a battle plan, and keeping an advocate's notebook.
Family, physicians, and friends share their own insights on working with this couple as they faced their many challenges. The piece that moved me most is by one of Brian's law partners. She says he taught her, when preparing for a case, to "write the ending first" by imagining the closing statement to the jury. Then you work through the details that get you to that closing statement.
Brian and Gerri dealt with cancer in this same way, writing the ending first, deciding that they would aim for healing and do what was necessary to achieve it. Gerri's work was important to Brian's survival. The book documents the system she developed to keep this lifesaving work on track.
You can use the same system to help a loved one through an illness. You can use it to help a friend through a family crisis. You can ask someone else to use it on your behalf when you are facing a big trouble.
Take advantage of the power of two.